Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain. 

Quote: "If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

          Reflection: When you are talking to someone you do not want to give the impression that you are annoyed or bored while having a conversation. When someone enjoys doing something you don't, you shouldn't criticize because then you will hurt the other person and they will not trust you or maybe even like you. I feel that when you are talking to someone you need to show interest, If you want to gain friends you need to show that you are interested. When you judge a person it makes them feel as though you don't like them because of the things they like. What I will do is I will not judge or criticize when I am talking to them because I would like to be trusted and a good friend. I want people to like talking to me. I feel that I would like to be spoken to without being judged on the things that I like. I would like to gain more friends so I will do this so I can.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

Quote: "The big secret in dealing with people" 

Reflection: This is such a powerful statement and I feel that when someone takes the time to talk to you and you are having a great conversation of the things you like, you should really appreciate. I think when you are appreciative of the people around you, you will treasure the moment more and feel loved. I need to learn how to appreciate the things I have and the people who are in my life. When I am speaking with others I should really honestly show how much I care. What I will do is be honest with others and show them how I really fee. I cannot just ignore the good people in my life because otherwise I wouldn't get anywhere. To apply this new technique I will also try to not criticize or complain when I am speaking to someone. I will learn how to give honest and sincere appreciation. 


Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Quote: "He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

Reflection: When you are speaking to someone you should speak to them like you really want to. Get excited and ask about the other person. Ask about things they like. When doing this it will surly make the other person happy. They will feel like you really do care. I will learn to be nice and be eager to talk to someone. For example, when I'm in an interview I will be eager to talk to the interviewer. When I feel eager I will not be as shy. This is because I want to tell the person things about me and my accomplishments. I will learn to be eager and talk to people more, I will also give honest and sincere appreciation. Along with, not criticizing and complaining. I will be a better person wen it comes to communication and making friends. 



Overall Reflection:
In "The Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People", I have learned a lot about speaking to others. When i talk to someone I will not criticize, condemn or complain. I will make sure I am as nice as I can be, and I will also make sure that I am honest. I will be honest and give sincere appreciation. I will not forgot to appreciate because when I talk to someone it will make them feel better and they will trust me more. I will also arouse the other person an eager want. I will get excited to talk to them. I will follow these three steps. 

Glenn Cunningham

When Glenn was younger he suffered a terrible burn in his legs because of a fire. The doctor told him he may never walk again. But this did not stop him. He pushed through, he made two wonderful goals that would later come true. Even through there might have not been hope, Glenn made two goals, to become a doctor, and to be in the Olympics. When he was young he told his mother he had hope, and believe he would walk again know matter how hard it would be. He would pull through and try his best. Later on he was in the Olympics and ran and won a silver medal. Cunningham then became a doctor and a father of 10 children. He wanted to become a doctor so he could help others, and keep others happy. When life gets rough, you should have a heart and always believe in yourself just like Cunningham did. If it was not for his goals, positive attitude and the support from his family he would not have even tried. His wonderful story encourages me to be the best I can be. I have learned that know matter how hard the situation is I should have trust and hope in myself. Glenn Cunningham is an inspiration to many. 

Personal Development Attribute

Commitment: "the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc"

 Reflection: When you are committed to doing something, you will give it your all. Know matter what stands in the way of you and your goals, you are determined to complete it. In this quote, it is referring to glue as in determination. Without commitment, you will not be able to accomplish your goals. 

Example: In class we are writing 100+ life planning goals. This notebook lists our goals and what we want to accomplish in order to be successful. When we want to accomplish another goal, we need to be committed to our goals, and really keep trying out best. 

Personal Development Quote

"The key to freedom is obedience. The more obedient we are, the more freedom we have."
                                                     (Boyd K. Packer)

Obedience: "compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another's authority"

Reflection: What this quote means is when we are given freedom, we should be thankful for what we have. We should take advantage but also give something in return. What we need to give in return is obedience. When given instructions we can just do what were told. In the long run, it would be easier on you and others around you. For example on a different topic of obedience, when you are told from a parent that you need to clean your room, and other chores around the house, it would be better to listen and do what you are told. When you are not obedient you will be punished, for example in this case if you do not do what you are told, then you might get your phone taken away or you will be grounded. 

How does this quote relate to your 100+ life panning goals?
~ This quote has a lot to do with our life goals, because without goals and obedience how will you accomplish your goals. Not only that but when we have so much freedom, we can take advantage and do whatever our hearts desire. 

Personal Development Attribute 

A smile: "form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed." 

Reflection: When you smile at others you can make there whole day a whole lot better. In this quote it is saying that when you smile, you are changing the world by showing how positive you are. In the second part of the quote i believe it means, do not let others put you down or make your smile turn into a frown. Basically do not let anyone mess up your day. The way you see the world should not determine weather you are happy or not. You can make yourself a happy person. Do not let the negativity and struggles in life change your smile. 

Example: If there is a new student in school and he or she looks scared or lost, the first thing you can do is smile at them. This will help them 100% more , they will give you a smile back and you  will become there friend with one smile. 

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                       Kindness: "the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate"

         Reflection: Being a kind person is very important. When you are a kind to others you are rewarded with kindness back. Being a nice person in general helps you make friends, accomplish goals, and anything you set your mind to. For example, if you see a new student at your school you should greet that person and help them find their classes if there lost. Or you can even become friends. I  feel that kind people go far in life and they achieve more than a rude person. The opposite of being kind is rude, people who are rude don't have patients, are mean to others and have a really bad attitude. The way you act toward others shows what kind of person you are. When you have a bad attitude, you will not really get along with people. Kindness is the way to go. With kindness you will be a good person along with other great traits.

Personal Development Attribute

Caring: "displaying kindness and concern for others"

Reflection: Being a kind person is very important. It can really make a difference in the way others see you and the way you see yourself. In this quote, Jennifer Hudson, likes to see others happy by being kind and caring. When you are a kind and caring person, you will make others happy. 

An example of being a caring person is, when you are walking to class and you see someone drop all their books and papers, the right thing to do is to stop and help them. Another act of being caring is, when you see someone looking sad, and there not happy like always, you should care about their feelings and ask whats wrong. Try to make that person feel better.

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                   Attitude: "a way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior."

          Reflection: When you have a bad attitude, you can be rude to others around you. Not only that but you can hurt someone directly. When you have a good attitude, you respect others and you are positive. This can lead to success in many ways.

          For example, when you are in class you should greet your teacher and your classmates. When you are instructed by the teacher to do a task the best thing is to listen and do what you're told. Keep in mind everyone has feelings. In this quote it is comparing bad attitude to a flat tire. With a flat tire on your car, your not going very far. Same thing with a bad attitude, if you don't change your bad attitude, like changing a bad tire, you wont go very far.

   Personal Development Quote

     "A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder." 

(Thomas Carlyle) 

         Attribute: I think in this quote the attribute is accomplishment. The reason is because I think without goals how will you accomplish anything. according to this quote you need to set goals so that you have something to accomplish. The comparison Carlyle uses is a ship without a rudder, without a rudder you cant steer the ship to make it go the way you want it to. In other words, without goals how are you suppose to know where you will go in life. 

Reflection: In this quote the attribute i came up with was Accomplishment. Without goals how are you suppose to create your path to success? Again in this quote he is comparing a man without goals to a ship without a rudder, so how will you accomplish your life dreams without goals. This quote has to do with my life planning goals because how will i know what path to take in order for me to be successful. 

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  Assertiveness: “The quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive.” 

   

Reflection: Assertiveness is such a nice word, and this quote proves it. This quote is showing how to solve a problem in a good manner. When you get angry you sometimes feel like you need to resolve with violence but there are different ways to solve your problems. For example this quote is referring to someone who repeatedly asks for money. When you answer aggressive, as shown in this quote, you can hurt someones feelings and even loose a friendship. Do not let that person take advantage of you either, this is called passive. Passive is when you let it slide each time, but it never gets better for you. When you are speaking in a passive and aggressive manner you will point out that you can do them the favor but also using a smart remark. Assertive is the way to go, you can explain how you feel without hurting anyone's feelings, you can get what you want but in a nice way.

Example: If one of your siblings keeps bothering you, you don't need to be aggressive. Just tell them in a nice way they are bothering you. 

  Personal Development Attribute

Accountability

                                  

                          Accountability: “the fact or condition of being accountable; responsible"

  

          "It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do for which we are accountable." 

                                                            (John Baptiste Moliere)

      

Reflection: What this quote means to me is when we have something we are responsible for, it is important to not only focus on what we already do, but to fix anything we didn't do that we are responsible for. 

Example: If you are told to clean your room, since it is your responsibility, you can go beyond what is expected. This can not only make everyone around you happy but you as well.