Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain. 

Quote: "If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

          Reflection: When you are talking to someone you do not want to give the impression that you are annoyed or bored while having a conversation. When someone enjoys doing something you don't, you shouldn't criticize because then you will hurt the other person and they will not trust you or maybe even like you. I feel that when you are talking to someone you need to show interest, If you want to gain friends you need to show that you are interested. When you judge a person it makes them feel as though you don't like them because of the things they like. What I will do is I will not judge or criticize when I am talking to them because I would like to be trusted and a good friend. I want people to like talking to me. I feel that I would like to be spoken to without being judged on the things that I like. I would like to gain more friends so I will do this so I can.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

Quote: "The big secret in dealing with people" 

Reflection: This is such a powerful statement and I feel that when someone takes the time to talk to you and you are having a great conversation of the things you like, you should really appreciate. I think when you are appreciative of the people around you, you will treasure the moment more and feel loved. I need to learn how to appreciate the things I have and the people who are in my life. When I am speaking with others I should really honestly show how much I care. What I will do is be honest with others and show them how I really fee. I cannot just ignore the good people in my life because otherwise I wouldn't get anywhere. To apply this new technique I will also try to not criticize or complain when I am speaking to someone. I will learn how to give honest and sincere appreciation. 


Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Quote: "He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

Reflection: When you are speaking to someone you should speak to them like you really want to. Get excited and ask about the other person. Ask about things they like. When doing this it will surly make the other person happy. They will feel like you really do care. I will learn to be nice and be eager to talk to someone. For example, when I'm in an interview I will be eager to talk to the interviewer. When I feel eager I will not be as shy. This is because I want to tell the person things about me and my accomplishments. I will learn to be eager and talk to people more, I will also give honest and sincere appreciation. Along with, not criticizing and complaining. I will be a better person wen it comes to communication and making friends. 



Overall Reflection:
In "The Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People", I have learned a lot about speaking to others. When i talk to someone I will not criticize, condemn or complain. I will make sure I am as nice as I can be, and I will also make sure that I am honest. I will be honest and give sincere appreciation. I will not forgot to appreciate because when I talk to someone it will make them feel better and they will trust me more. I will also arouse the other person an eager want. I will get excited to talk to them. I will follow these three steps.